When your guests sit down at your wedding reception, what do you want them to see? Striking centrepieces, quirky favours or the fine calligraphy on handcrafted place cards – whatever catches their eye, it's likely you'll want it to reflect your unique taste and personality. Whether you have ideas in mind or your plan is a blank canvas, this guide is sure to help you define your dream wedding table setting.

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Introducing a theme is a useful way to narrow down table setting ideas for weddings. One of the easiest ways to do so is by working with a particular colour scheme, which you can then reflect with bridesmaids’ dresses or groomsmen's accessories. Alternatively, base your theme around a motif, image or place that is meaningful to your relationship.

Once you’ve chosen a theme, think outside the box in terms of how to illustrate it. From the table decorations to the napkins, you should have no shortage of ways to be creative. Consider aspects of your event such as location, season and formality. A relaxed beach ceremony at sunset might call for petals scattered on bare wood and hand-written place cards, whereas a traditional event in the British countryside could require linen tablecloths, polished silverware and classic bouquets.

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Careful planning and an eye for detail makes all the difference when it comes to setting up a wedding table. Traditionally, each place setting should include plates, glassware, napkins, a name card and cutlery. Again, this is a chance to put your unique stamp on the festivities and establish the level of formality. For example, fine bone china and ornate silver cutlery have a sophisticated opulence, whereas charmingly mismatched crockery and floral print napkins evoke a distinctly vintage-inspired feel.

It's customary to have at least two glasses at each adult place. Elegant crystal flutes are a classic choice, while glasses printed with names, messages, patterns or even images have a playful and informal feel. Similarly, place cards and wedding favours are small yet significant details which show guests how glad you are that they're sharing your day. Incorporate nicknames and funny photographs, or hand write them for a personal touch. Adding character needn't come at the expense of your overall aesthetic; simply include an element or motif in each setting to tie everything together. For example, if you dream of a verdant, botanical-themed wedding, consider tying a small sprig of baby's breath to each favour.

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A wedding table centrepiece gives your setting an attractive focal point. To get a rough idea of size, consider the height of the ceiling in your venue. Small centrepieces can be swallowed up in rooms with high ceilings, whereas tall displays can look overbearing under lower ones. Importantly, a centrepiece shouldn’t create a boundary across the table between guests trying to socialise.

Your centrepieces don’t need to be identical, or even matching – let your imagination run wild! Think jewel-coloured candles in retro candelabras, butterflies perched on mini trees or wildflowers blooming from crystal vases. You could liven up floral displays with vibrant citrus fruits, berries or lush summer foliage. A final point to bear in mind is the backdrop of the table. Floor-length linen will create a polished aesthetic, whereas bare wood has a charming rustic appeal. A table runner is another way to reflect your taste and bring subtle textural contrast. Linen or lace in soft blush tones will add a touch of romance, while embellished designs feel tastefully opulent.

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The best tip is to start planning early. It’s easy to let tasks like this slip to the bottom of your to-do list, but they take longer than you expect. First, categorise the people on your guest list according to their relationship with you – your family and friends, your fiancé’s and so on. Next, create a visual representation of the dining space so that you can move people around to see who fits where. You could use a computer spreadsheet, but a better idea is to buy a large notebook for the job. It's not high tech, but a pretty journal with the seating plan and guests' names in makes a lovely keepsake to look back at in years to come. Use sticky notes to represent guests at the planning stage, then write their names in once the plan is settled.

On a traditional head table, the newlyweds sit in the middle, with the maid of honour next to the bride and the best man next to the groom. The remaining guests, including the newlyweds’ parents and grandparents, sit in an alternating male-female pattern down the length of the table. The rest of the seating plan is entirely optional; it shouldn’t take too much guesswork to place people where they want to be. Consider singles’ and children’s tables, as well as ‘reunion’ ones that allow guests to reconnect with friends from school, work or university.

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Although not a requirement, flowers make a glorious addition to any wedding table setting, providing colour, texture and wonderful fragrance. Are there colour or flower choices that emerge from looking at your venue, dress or theme? For instance, a delicate bouquet of dusky blooms and rustic foliage will perfectly complement a farm wedding, whereas a beachside event might call for towers of exotic blossoms and tropical leaves.

You could let your flowers reflect the season in which you are getting married. Think delicately-coloured gerberas in buttercup yellow or duck-egg blue for spring, while summer nuptials might call for orchids in hot pink or vibrant peach. Crimson alstroemerias combined with dark greenery make a stylish choice for autumn, or you could embrace a classic winter aesthetic with ivory lilies or roses.

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If you invest plenty of time in the preliminary stages of planning your table décor, there will be no last-minute panic in the days leading up to your wedding. Create a mood board with a picture of your wedding venue alongside inspiration for your tables, like photographs, colours and even fabric samples. This will allow you to experiment with different aesthetics before making any concrete decisions. Once you’re clear on the look you want, order samples of everything – seeing something in a magazine or online is not the same as trying it out in real life.

Next, you can mock up a table at home and make any adjustments well in advance. Think about small details: how napkins should be folded, how cutlery and glassware should sit, any tweaks to the centrepiece. Once you are happy with the design, photograph everything. This way, you can refer back quickly and easily when your special day finally comes round.

Don't be overwhelmed by the planning involved in making your dream wedding tables a reality. Ultimately, this offers a great opportunity to get creative and bring plenty of personality to your wedding, making it a memorable day for everyone involved.