Helping your son or daughter to plan their wedding is a very exciting – and very busy – time. There's so much to think about about, from choosing a venue and designing invitations to composing a guest list and deciding on food. With all that to do, your own outfit might be the last thing on your mind.

However, if you want to look your best, don't make it an afterthought; put aside other considerations for a few minutes and focus on you! In this guide, we'll highlight some wedding outfit options for mothers, look at how to match colours and jewellery, and run through the dos and don'ts to ensure that you're looking your best when the big day arrives.

Metallic black sleeveless jumpsuit and Sleeveless v neck red midi dress

Even if their wedding plan is still in it's early stages, it's likely that your son or daughter already has a general theme or atmosphere in mind. This will help to define the style and formality of the day, so if you want to complement the overall feel of the wedding, ask the couple for this information to get a basic idea of the kind of outfit you should be looking for.

In terms of specific choices, you'll want to go for something that is practical and comfortable to move around in, as you're likely to be on your feet for most of the day. Knee-length dresses are always an elegant option, but you could go for something floor length if the theme calls for it; just make sure you avoid white! Heels, your favourite smart coat and a sleek clutch bag are fail-safe options when it comes to completing your look. For summer weddings, you could carry a light bolero or a pashmina to wrap up in when it becomes cooler in the evening.

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Pastel Pink Navy Purple and White fascinator

The couple may already have an accent colour picked out to complement their theme, so it's worth asking them what this is if you'd like your outfit to fit in. You don't need to match completely – you don't want to blend in with the bridesmaids, after all – so choose a tonal shade. For example, if the colour is a rich purple, opt for lavender, lilac or heliotrope. You could also pick out the colour with jewellery, hair accessories or even a hat.

If there's no specific colour to work with, or a number of different colours, you can be a little more creative. Choose a print that incorporates several hues, or accent a bright dress with sharply contrasting shoes and a bag. If your preferred look is more understated, opt for pastel shades or neutral hues like pale pink, yellow or blue.

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gold crystal brooch

As the mother of the bride – or the mother of the groom – you'll be a central figure throughout the entire occasion and there will be plenty of eyes on you. Feel polished and pretty with beautiful accessories that will add a little sparkle to your ensemble. When deciding which items to choose, consider which parts of you will be on show. The shape of your neckline should be a starting point when thinking about what kind of necklace to choose, for example.

If you intend to have your hair up, you could opt for a delicate pair of earrings with colours that match your dress and the wedding theme, or go for a classic look with a set of pearls. Using a shimmering brooch to draw attention to a sleek pashmina or shawl is another timeless choice.

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Mother hugging the bride

There aren't any rules for the mother-of-the-bride’s hair and makeup, but keeping your look subtle and timeless is always a winner. Having a trusted friend or makeup artist do your makeup on the big day will allow you to relax and focus on other things. Mothers of the bride or groom often overlook themselves in favour of their daughter or son; remember, it's your special day too. A lovely way to treat yourself is by getting a fresh manicure and pedicure on the day of the wedding. This will also prevent any last minute chips or scratches.

There will probably be lots of flash photography on the day, so be sure to pack a pressed powder compact to keep your skin looking matte. It might also be worth bringing some cotton buds to tidy up any teary eye makeup after the ceremony. For the same reason, it's a good idea to wear water-resistant mascara and to avoid eyeliner.

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Hearing the exciting news that your son or daughter is ready to say their vows is something that all mothers look forward to. Make sure you visit our wedding boutique for everything you need to look fantastic and feel comfortable on their big day – just don't forget those tissues!